Do we all have a soulmate? To answer this question, let us first define what a soul mate is.
A reference from Wikipedia stated that:
A soulmate or soul mate is like a twin soul, which is thought to be the ultimate soulmate. It is the one and only other half of one’s soul, for which every soul should find and join. It is a person with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality, and/or compatibility. An early story about soulmates is presented by Aristophanes in Plato’s Symposium. It was told that humans originally consisted of four arms, four legs, and a single head made of two faces, but Zeus feared their power and split them all in half, condemning them to spend their lives searching for the other half to complete them.
It seems that the term soulmate is mythical, isn’t it? The term soulmate, based on the definition above, is not stated in the Holy Scriptures. There is no such thing as a twin soul or the only other half of one’s soul, whom each one of us should find and join.
The Bible does not tell a special someone, whom is a person solely for us, and a soul which is the other half of our soul. However, the Bible tells of people and souls who are united as a body and who are united in one Spirit, which is the Spirit of God. This souls which are united in one Spirit, form as the body of Christ, which is the Church, which Christ is the head and its savior.
1 Corinthians 12:12-13 (NKJV)
For as the body is one and has many members, but all the members of that one body, being many, are one body, so also is Christ. For by one Spirit we were all baptized into one body—whether Jews or Greeks, whether slaves or free—and have all been made to drink into one Spirit.
What do I mean by this? The soulmate mythology tells of two persons, which are twin souls, and half souls originally formed as one and will ultimately be completed as one. On the other hand, the Bible tells of many persons, which are many souls, spiritually formed as one. What does this mean again? In the concept of soul mate, you can only have true happiness in marriage and life, if you will find that one person whom is your soulmate. While in the concept of the Bible, you can have true happiness in marriage and life, if you will find a person whom is in unity with the Spirit of God. This means, you can find true happiness to any person, as long as he/she is like you, whom is a person from God.
The scripture also tells that we can find different happiness from people who are in this unity of Spirit. Each of them can help us in special ways. They may approach us as friends, relatives, co-workers, teachers, preachers, advisers and others. This means that we should value each one of them for they are helpful and useful to us.
1 Corinthians 12:20-26 (NKJV)
But now indeed there are many members, yet one body. And the eye cannot say to the hand, “I have no need of you”; nor again the head to the feet, “I have no need of you.” No, much rather, those members of the body which seem to be weaker are necessary. And those members of the body which we think to be less honorable, on these we bestow greater honor; and our unpresentable parts have greater modesty, but our presentable parts have no need. But God composed the body, having given greater honor to that part which lacks it, that there should be no schism in the body, but that the members should have the same care for one another. And if one member suffers, all the members suffer with it; or if one member is honored, all the members rejoice with it.
Now, with regard to finding our one true love – a wife or a husband, it is not predestined. It will defend on our choice – our free will.
Deuteronomy 30:19 (NKJV)
I call heaven and earth as witnesses today against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing; therefore choose life, that both you and your descendants may live;
As I said earlier, we can find true happiness in marriage if we will marry a person, whom is like us – a person from God. This is so that our marriage will be united in one Spirit – the Spirit of God. Remember that the husband and wife will become as one flesh.
Mark 10:7-8 (NKJV)
‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh.
Therefore, to assure that we can have a marriage that is composed of a husband and a wife who are united in the Spirit of God, we must begin with ourselves, receiving His Spirit – so that we may become part of the body of Christ. This means that we need to see to it first that we are deserving persons – who fear the Lord and depart from evil. This is because even if we will find the right person for us, if we have not become right for her/him – a truly happy relationship cannot still exist. How much more if the persons in that relationship are both wicked and of evil? They will only deceive each other and bring their selves into destruction in the days of Earth and in the Day of Judgment. Therefore, we must trust the Lord with all our hearts so that He may direct us to that right path of life, love life, and everlasting life.
Proverbs 3:5-6 (NKJV)
Trust in the LORD with all your heart,
And lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He shall direct your paths.
Finally, to find that person, who is from God, whom will truly love us, whom will lead us to true happiness – we just need to determine if the fruits of the Holy Spirit are with or without her/him.
Galatians 5:19-26 (NKJV)
Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.
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