When is the right time to marry? When is the best time for us to get married?
Perhaps, most of unmarried men and women have asked that question to their selves many times. Of course that is one very nice question. As we want to secure ourselves in the future (i.e., secured emotionally, mentally, physically, financially and spiritually), we should know when is the best time for us to join and become one flesh with our own wife or husband for life. Now, let’s begin answering this one big question of all single people.
To answer this question, we must first deal with another one important question – what is God’s purpose of marriage between a man and a woman? Is it to save us from financial poverty? Is it to still increase our bloating global population? The answer is this: marriage is God’s way of saving us from sinning and committing sexual misbehavior. By God’s grace, justice and righteousness, He wants us to rejoice marriage through love, humility, truth and self-discipline. Although it is better to stay unmarried so that we can serve God without distractions from the flesh, He gave us the gift of marriage – for the Lord understands our human nature.
1 Corinthians 7:1-2 (New King James Version)
Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me:
It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
1 Corinthians 7:7 (New King James Version)
For I wish that all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that.
So when is the right time to get ourselves bounded with our own wife or husband? The Holy Scriptures has provided the following answers:
If we cannot already control ourselves, and as long as we are in the right age, we must get married before we lose control and commit sexual misconducts.
1 Corinthians 7:8-9 (New King James Version)
But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
1 Corinthians 7:36-38 (New King James Version)
But if any man thinks he is behaving improperly toward his virgin, if she is past the flower of youth, and thus it must be, let him do what he wishes. He does not sin; let them marry. Nevertheless he who stands steadfast in his heart, having no necessity, but has power over his own will, and has so determined in his heart that he will keep his virgin, does well. So then he who gives her in marriage does well, but he who does not give her in marriage does better.
This issue of sex and marriage is a sensitive one. Though, this article is not intended to condemn people, but to save people. This is not intended to punish us but to give us hope for salvation. This post also aims to keep us away from sins. It gives us a new start – a joyful and peaceful life that is according to God.
John 3:17 (New King James Version)
For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved.
John 8:10-11 (New King James Version)
When Jesus had raised Himself up and saw no one but the woman, He said to her, “Woman, where are those accusers of yours? Has no one condemned you?”
She said, “No one, Lord.”
And Jesus said to her, “Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more.”
Finally, always keep in mind and heart – that when God corrects you, it is because He loves you.
Proverbs 3:11-12 (New King James Version)
My son, do not despise the chastening of the LORD, Nor detest His correction; For whom the LORD loves He corrects, Just as a father the son in whom he delights.