Why life seems to be unfair? Why can’t we get the things we want the most? Why do we suffer even though we don’t deserve it?
Those questions commonly arise in our minds. And sometimes, out of our desperation – we ask those questions to God. We seek and wait for His answers. We need answers, we need knowledge. We need wisdom, but more importantly we need understanding.
In answering the question why life seems to be unfair, let’s ask another question. This question goes this way… is it really life that is unfair? No, it isn’t. God, who is a God of righteousness and justice, through His message given to Moses, even tells us to choose life.
Deuteronomy 30:19 (NIV)
This day I call heaven and earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live
But what kind of life do the Scriptures tell us? If we will continue the passage, we can read that this life is the life with the Lord – a loving life with the Lord.
Deuteronomy 30:20 (NIV)
and that you may love the LORD your God, listen to his voice, and hold fast to him. For the LORD is your life, and he will give you many years in the land he swore to give to your fathers, Abraham, Isaac and Jacob
Life, as given to us by God us a gift, is not unfair. However, there are things which can make these lives unfair. What are they? These are the earthly, unspiritual, and evil things.
The love of earthly and unspiritual things – desire and boasting of material things, make our lives miserable.
1 John 2:15-17 (NIV)
Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For everything in the world—the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does—comes not from the Father but from the world. The world and its desires pass away, but the man who does the will of God lives forever.
The love of money can bear all kinds of evil and can bring us grief.
1 Timothy 6:10 (NIV)
For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.
The people whose minds are set on earthly things fall into failure and shame.
Philippians 3:19-21 (NIV)
Their destiny is destruction, their god is their stomach, and their glory is in their shame. Their mind is on earthly things. But our citizenship is in heaven. And we eagerly await a Savior from there, the Lord Jesus Christ, who, by the power that enables him to bring everything under his control, will transform our lowly bodies so that they will be like his glorious body.
Therefore, we must put away earthly and evil things.
Colossians 3:5 (NIV)
Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.
And set out hearts and minds on things above, instead of on earthly things.
Colossians 3:1-2 (NIV)
Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.
We must eliminate envy and selfishness in ourselves – for these things make us feel that life is so unfair.
James 3:16 (NIV)
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.
Let us have peace from Christ rule in our hearts – let us be thankful and be contented with what God gives us.
Colossians 3:15 (NIV)
Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.
Hebrews 13:5 (NIV)
Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said,
“Never will I leave you;
never will I forsake you.
Let us seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and God who knows what we need will provide us everything we need.
Matthew 6:28-34 (NIV)
“And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
For God gives blessings to righteous.
Proverbs 3:33 (NIV)
The LORD’s curse is on the house of the wicked,
but he blesses the home of the righteous.
He gives grace to the humble.
Proverbs 3:34 (NIV)
He mocks proud mockers
but gives grace to the humble.
And He gives honor to the wise.
Proverbs 3:35 (NIV)
The wise inherit honor,
but fools he holds up to shame.
Life with God is not unfair. It is the material and physical world we live in which makes life unfair. But if we are spiritual, and we live and walk in the spiritual world, where desires and greed on material and physical things do not exist – life would not become unfair. Life is not unfair if we set our hearts and minds on things which are in Heaven, and not on things in this world – money, fame, riches, gold, silver, physical beauty, and other earthly things which perish and welcome evil.
There is no unfairness or iniquity when we have humility, kindness, contentment, thankfulness and unselfishness. God don’t lie nor break His promises. He blesses the righteous; gives grace the humble, and honor the wise. God is a God of love and justice. We just need to trust Him, and continue in being faithful and thankful to Him. As the old saying says – God knows what’s the best for you. God works for it – and we must be His co-worker.
1 Corinthians 3:9 (NIV)
“For we are God’s fellow workers; you are God’s field, God’s building.”